“The point of meditation is to see what we are bringing to experience, and then to see that whatever we bring is extra and needs to be discarded. The relationship we bring to an experience is based upon what we want from it. The wanting is from a ‘me’ that feels undernourished and in a complaining mode. By connecting first with the complaining, then bracketing the complaint within awareness, everything coexists in perfection. Nothing needs to be added or eliminated. There is not a better moment waiting after the complaint is acted upon. When the complaint dies within awareness, the vertical is integrated within the horizontal, and all is still.”
Smith R. "Stepping out of self-deception. The Buddha's liberating teaching of no-self." Shambhala, Boston, 2010.