"'Chasing after or rejecting things only leads to despair,' he thought. 'How can I find the wisdom that transcends the limitations of these two approaches?'
That the Buddha's question led to his awakening is a significant part of his story, and we should take note of it. ... we access our greatest intelligence through engaging our life with the spirit of wonderment, not through seeking absolute conclusions."Mattis-Namgyel E. The power of an open question. The Buddha's path to freedom. Shambhala, Boston, 2011.
Shauna Shapiro PhD interview Nov 2011