Current society's idea of perfect happiness is living a continuous beer commercial: being one of the young (20's), beautiful, sexy people frolicking around a campfire on a beach (drinking the advertised product).
This is far removed from reality. Everyone is subject to constant change (anicca) & unsatisfactoriness (dukkha), but we don't need to take any of it personally (anatta).
Even the wise, spiritually-mature feel sympathetic pain when witnessing the suffering of others.
“The sorrow, grief, and rage you feel is a measure of your humanity and your evolutionary maturity. As your heart breaks open there will be room for the world to heal.” Joanna Macy
Life for an evolved human being is NOT
about maximizing pleasure (craving) & minimizing discomfort (aversion). Our primitive
brain stem can run that simple approach-avoidance program in the background (autopilot).
Our life is about consciously attending - waking
up, learning what exactly is going on, who exactly we are, and living in harmony with that enlightened realization.