This kind of love has many qualities that distinguish it from our more usual experiences of love mixed with desire and attachment. Born of great generosity, metta is caring and kindness that does not seek self-benefit. It does not look for anything in return or by way of exchange: 'I will love you if you love me,' or 'I will love you if you behave a certain way.' Because loving-kindness is never associated with anything harmful, it always arises from a purity of heart."
Goldstein J. A heart full of peace. Wisdom Publications, Boston, 2007.
We can read information like that many times over many years, and readily notice how others fail to live up to these wonderfully wise standards. Then suddenly, we're shocked to realize - heh wait a minute, I'm not doing this! - sparkling insight - another chance to let go of a portion of my conditioning.
|Maui Buddha by Andrea Smith http://www.andreasmithgallery.com/|