Showing posts with label thought. Show all posts
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Sunday, April 19, 2026

A Wise, Potentially Transformative Interview

    While listening to a Michael Neill interview, I discovered the host of nextlevelsoul.com Alex Ferrari. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND listening to this excellent interview, and for those who get more out of reading, there is also a fine transcript: https://nextlevelsoul.com/michael-neill-true-self/ 
    Below is Ferrari's very fine introduction:

"On today’s episode, we welcome Michael Neill, a thoughtful teacher of human consciousness who explores how fear, thought, and misunderstanding keep us from recognizing the deeper intelligence already alive within us. There is a strange habit in human life of assuming that if we feel unsettled, then something somewhere must be wrong. We search the world for the broken piece, and if we cannot find it in our circumstances, we turn inward and decide that the flaw must be in us. This is one of the great tragedies of being human: not that we suffer, but that we so quickly conclude that suffering means we are defective. In this profound conversation, Michael Neill opens a gentler door, one that does not ask us to become something else, but to notice what we already are beneath the noise.

There is something almost comical about the way we chase fulfillment, as if peace were hiding behind one more success, one more achievement, one more perfect moment in which the world finally arranges itself according to our preferences. We are taught this from an early age. We are told to improve, optimize, correct, and repair ourselves until we become worthy of rest. Yet the deeper wisdom of life suggests something else entirely. It suggests that beneath all the frantic movement of the mind, there is already a quiet wholeness, untouched by our personal dramas. The tragedy is not that this wholeness is far away, but that it is so close, so ever-present, that we overlook it while searching for fireworks in the distance.

What struck me most in this conversation was the way he dismantled the illusion of brokenness with such grace and precision. He spoke about how many people spend their lives trying to fix what was never actually damaged in the first place. That lands deeply, because so much of modern life is built on convincing us that we are lacking. If we are not enough, then we can be sold the promise of becoming enough. If we are not healed, we can be sold the process. If we are not awakened, we can be sold the map. But as he so beautifully implied, the map is often mistaken for the territory, and the territory itself is already alive beneath our feet. Or as he said so simply and powerfully, “we’re obsessed with the mess, and we miss the amazing bit.”

There is also a spiritual maturity in the way he speaks of success, because he does not condemn it, nor does he worship it. He simply sees it for what it is: neutral. Success can be a beautiful expression of inner alignment, or it can be a desperate attempt to patch an invisible wound. The world often celebrates the outer result without asking what energy created it. And that is why so many people can arrive at the summit, only to discover they are still haunted by the same insecurity they had at the bottom of the mountain. If inner poverty remains, no amount of applause can make one feel rich. This is why some of the most outwardly celebrated souls remain inwardly restless. They have achieved the dream the world handed them, but not the peace their own spirit was asking for.

As the conversation deepened, we moved into the nature of spirit itself, and here the waters became beautifully clear. He described spirit not as an ideology, religion, or special category reserved for monks and mystics, but as the formless intelligence from which life itself arises. That insight alone can loosen a thousand years of misunderstanding. To say that one is spiritual is almost redundant, because one cannot be anything else. The wave may forget the ocean, but it is never separate from it. The body moves, the mind chatters, the personality performs its little dance, yet beneath all of it there remains a stillness that does not come and go. It is there in joy, there in sorrow, there in confusion, and there in clarity. The mind may scream that life is unstable, but spirit remains as it always has been—silent, spacious, and complete.

What I also loved was his refusal to deny the darker side of human experience while still insisting on a deeper truth underneath it. This is not naive spirituality dressed in pleasant language. It is not pretending that cruelty does not exist or that human beings never lose themselves in violence, greed, or fear. Rather, it is the understanding that when people are deeply lost, they act from that lostness. That does not excuse harmful behavior, but it does illuminate it. It helps us see that confusion creates suffering, and suffering passed through an unconscious mind becomes suffering inflicted on others. The wisdom here is not in becoming passive, but in recognizing that if we only fight darkness as darkness, we will remain trapped in the same dream that created it. Something far more transformative happens when one begins to see beyond the behavior, to the misunderstanding beneath it.

Again and again, the conversation returned to trust. Not lazy trust, not wishful thinking, but a living trust in the intelligence of life itself. We have become so accustomed to strategizing our way through existence that we mistake anxiety for wisdom. We assume that if we worry enough, calculate enough, and control enough, we will finally become safe. But life has never offered that bargain. The river does not ask us to control its currents. It asks us to learn how to float. That is why one of the deepest revelations in this episode is the reminder that fear and awareness are not the same thing. Awareness is clean, direct, present. Fear is the mind trying to outmaneuver life before life has even happened. And from that misunderstanding, entire identities are built.

Perhaps that is why conversations like this feel so necessary now. So much of the old world is trembling. Institutions, identities, and assumptions that once seemed immovable are cracking before our eyes. And while the mind interprets this as catastrophe, spirit often uses collapse as invitation. When the false begins to fall away, the real has a chance to be seen. What remains after the noise is not emptiness, but presence. Not despair, but a deeper kind of sanity. And maybe that is the hidden grace in all of this: that when we finally tire of trying to fix the movie, we may at last turn and notice the light behind it.

SPIRITUAL TAKEAWAYS

  • Much of human suffering comes from the mistaken belief that we are fundamentally broken
  • True spirituality is not something to attain, but something we already are
  • Peace begins when we trust life more than the anxious strategies of the mind

So in the end, what lingers is not merely a set of ideas, but a softer way of meeting life. A way that does not demand perfection before peace, or certainty before surrender. It reminds us that beneath all striving, beneath all self-judgment, beneath all the endless noise of becoming, there is already a presence quietly waiting to be noticed. And once it is noticed, even for a moment, life begins to feel less like a battle and more like a sacred unfolding.

Please enjoy my conversation with Michael Neill." "Connecting To Your True Self" https://nextlevelsoul.com/michael-neill-true-self/  


 

Friday, October 18, 2019

It's All about Relating - to Ourself, Others, the Universe

     May these insights intrigue and inspire ...

     The most important question a human being needs to answer according to Einstein: " 'Is the universe a friendly place or not?' ... If we believe that the universe is unfriendly ... peace will be elusive at best." Joan Borysenko. “Fire in the Soul. A New Psychology of Spiritual Optimism.” Warner Books, 1993.

"A human being is part of the whole, called by us 'universe,' a part limited in time and space.
We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings, as something separate from the rest - a kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us.
Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in all of its beauty.
The true value of a human being
is determined primarily by the measure and the sense
in which s/he has attained liberation
from the (separate) self....
We shall require a substantially new manner of thinking
if humanity is to survive."
Albert Einstein
1934

      “By giving ourselves unconditional kindness and comfort while embracing the human experience, difficult as it is, we avoid destructive patterns of fear, negativity, and isolation. At the same time, self-compassion fosters positive mind states such as happiness and optimism. The nurturing quality of self-compassion allows us to flourish, to appreciate the beauty and richness of life, even in hard times.
      ... you are only being asked to relax, allow life to be as it is, and open your heart to yourself. It’s easier than you might think, and it could change your life.” Kristin Neff. “Self-Compassion. The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself.” HarperCollins, 2011.

      “I would define love very simply: as a potent blend of openness and warmth, which allows us to make real contact, to take delight in and appreciate, and to be at one with – ourselves, others, and life itself.
      ... love is the central force that holds our whole life together and allows it to function." John Welwood. "Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships. Healing the Wound of the Heart." Trumpeter, 2006. 


     "To be enlightened is to be intimate with all things." Zen Master Dogen 

      "I was born
       when all I once feared
       I could love.” Rabia Basri 


     "Once we are willing to be directly intimate with our life as it arises, joy emerges out of the simplest of life experiences." Roshi Pat Enkyo O'Hara

      During meditation “you are not escaping the world; you are getting ready to fully embrace it.” Christine Skarda 

     "... everything yearns to be met. Everything yearns to resolve itself in love – that love being the open space of acceptance, of allowing, of staying resolutely present, and unconditionally open to every nuance of your inner experience." Amoda Maa. "Surfing the Heart of Darkness: Suffering as a Doorway to Liberation." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXlUsBYbv0w

     “Your task is not to seek for love,
      but merely to seek and find all of the barriers
      within yourself that you have built against it.” Helen Schueman


      Intimacy is what practice is all about: the realization of the essential lack of distinction between self and other that inevitably leads to wisdom and compassionate action. Intimacy with the depth of our being – authenticity – is the essential first step. Then, with the help of loving-kindness meditation, we bring intimacy into our relationships with others, starting with those dearest to us and moving on to those who don’t seem dear at all. We can grow in intimacy to include everyone around us, all of society, the whole world and all the beings it contains. Pat Enkyo O’Hara “Most Intimate: A Zen Approach to Life's Challenges.” Shambhala, 2014. 

     We spend a disproportionate amount of time & energy, fearing for our life. This is almost always because we're reacting to past traumas (instead of engaging with reality) and/or we're fearing & trying to avoid ego death (instead of accepting & engaging with the unavoidable reality of physical death). 
     To see what a (spontaneous) shift from fear-based, survivalist self-centered, adversarial, fight / flight / freeze "ordinary mind" to an evolved tend & befriend "open heart-mind" level of consciousness looks like, listen to (or read the transcript of) this documentary: CBC Radio, The Current: “This B.C. woman lodged hundreds of 911 complaints about the homeless. Now she's advocating for them.” https://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-may-28-2019-1.5148615/this-b-c-woman-lodged-hundreds-of-911-complaints-about-the-homeless-now-she-s-advocating-for-them-1.5148621

     An overview of Intimacy with the Real World: http://www.johnlovas.com/2018/11/intimacy-with-real-world.html

     With due respect to William James, most of our thoughts (self-referential internal narrative) are echos of our conditioning. Better thoughts cannot eliminate discretionary suffering.
     “We are here to find that dimension within ourselves that is deeper than thought.” Eckhart Tolle
     We can access, and can integrate, a deeper, far more evolved level of consciousness than the ordinary discursive thought level. 


Thursday, July 18, 2019

Three Wonderful Books

     Short quotes from 3 exceptionally useful books:

     “When nothing is needed from the object* to fill up my lack, it can be just what it is … no longer frustrating because there is no longer anything lacking in me that I need to project as something lacking in my world.” 
        David R. Loy. “Lack & Transcendence. The Problem of Death and Life in Psychotherapy, Existentialism, and Buddhism." Wisdom Publications, 2018.

     Loy's book is a detailed, slightly scholarly examination of our universal gnawing sense of "lack" - not being enough in some irritatingly impossible-to-resolve way: not good enough, not smart enough, not rich enough, not attractive enough, not happy enough, not secure enough, etc, etc. BUT Loy explains what, from a Buddhist perspective, we can effectively do about this.
     *"Object" can refer to people, animals, things, activities etc. we crave for, try to possess, try to hang onto, etc. in a futile (materialistic) attempt to resolve this sense of lack.

     A series of simple exercises presented in the next book, by Weber, show us how:
“a) thoughts are about the past and future,
b) thoughts are unpredictable and beyond your control,
c) most thoughts contain the I,
d) trying to not think is difficult,
e) thoughts are continuous,
f) you can’t predict your thoughts,
g) you have thousands of random thoughts,
h) your thoughts come from and go to emptiness,
i) your 'I' is a changing cast of ad-hoc characters.
     These insights are critical to having the mind see its nature and, amazingly, and fortunately, begin to unravel itself from its craziness.”

       Gary Weber. “Happiness Beyond Thought. A Practical Guide to Awakening.” iUniverse Inc, 2007.

     Weber's book is super-concise, straight-to-the-point. It's especially useful if you've already done a fair bit of reading about awakening, yet remain identified with your thoughts ("self-talk"). There are useful, beneficial types of thinking: such as for problem-solving, planning (vs catastrophizing), etc. The type Weber advises we learn to release is by far the most common form: self-referential internal narrative (SRIN) - obsessive, excessive self-concern - all about "me" "myself" & "I".


      “To recognize an emotion as an emotion is itself a wise response. This awareness of the truth of things, that an emotion is a mental state, offers a little bit of light. This light allows us to view the emotion wisely instead of through the eyes of delusion and ignorance. Awareness offers a pause. When we observe and accept, ‘Ah, anxiety is like this,’ for instance, we can experience an intimacy with the raw actuality of the experience instead of papering it over with thought.
     Because all conditioned things are impermanent, painful emotions are subject to change. We practice sustaining the awareness that an emotion is happening here and now. There is the object – the painful emotion – and there is the knowing of the object. Because the pain is happening here and now, it is workable here and now. The story of self begins to ease and dissolve: how I was in the past, what happened when I previously experienced this, why it is this way now, given it is this way now it will be this way into the future … all of this is just the arising of thoughts that are inherently empty and occurring here and now.” 
        Narayan Helen Liebenson. “The Magnanimous Heart. Compassion and Love, Loss and Grief, Joy and Liberation.” Wisdom Publications, 2018.

     Liebenson's book is warm, gentle AND wise. Emotional reactivity reminds us when our behavior is not quite as psychosociospiritually-evolved as we would like it to be. Maturation is a life-long journey - one step at a time ...


Fogo Island, Newfoundland




Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Creativity - from Where?

     "The dictionary defines creativity as 'the use of imagination or original ideas,' but that definition is what happens after the creative moment. It is impossible for the conditioned mind to think something original. It is discerning awareness that sees in a novel way, and when we look closely, we see that the actual act of creation is completely still, without thought. The absence of thought allows awareness to see, free from all constraints, but soon after, the mind possesses the creative moment and thinks about what just occurred. The person having the creative moment then claims ownership by believing he or she used his or her imagination to come to this insight, when the person was not even in the picture when creativity occurred."

       Rodney Smith. Awakening. A Paradigm Shift of the Heart. Shambhala, Boston, 2014.