Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts

Monday, August 19, 2024

Wisdom, Nature and the Brain

    In "Breakfast of Champions" Kurt Vonnegut writes
    “As for the story itself, it was entitled 'The Dancing Fool.' Like so many Trout stories, it was about a tragic failure to communicate. Here was the plot: A flying saucer creature named Zog arrived on Earth to explain how wars could be prevented and how cancer could be cured. He brought the information from Margo, a planet where the natives conversed by means of farts and tap dancing. Zog landed at night in Connecticut. He had no sooner touched down than he saw a house on fire. He rushed into the house, farting and tap dancing, warning the people about the terrible danger they were in. The head of the house brained Zog with a golf club.” 

    Imagine that you are an experienced swimming coach, and you come across a drowning person screaming & flailing ineffectually in deep water. You can't jump in & pull him out, all you can do is try to persuade him to shift from screaming & flailing to effectively, relatively-effortlessly swim to shore. But the drowning person is furious because you're 'wasting his time' with 'irrelevant nonsense.'

    "Most human institutions, by the purely technical & professional manner in which they come to be administered (left hemisphere dominance), end by being obstacles to the very purposes which their (usually right hemisphere dominant) founders had in view." William James

    The above illustrate the certainty of our left hemisphere, which typically fails to understand & obey the broader perspective, greater wisdom & thus better judgment of the right hemisphere. 

    A relatively brief excerpt from a superb recent Iain McGilchrist interview: "Wisdom, Nature and the Brain" - The Great Simplification #85 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dogVQDydRGQ

Iain McGilchrist (IM)    “Of course, I'm not suggesting that physically the brain has changed enormously since 2000 years ago. It will have changed a bit, because it's always evolving, but it's not that I'm referring to. It's that we use the brain in different ways. We can choose to listen to one part of the brain more than another. And I think that what happens as a society becomes a powerful civilization, a number of things happen. One is that it overreaches itself either in terms of its territory or its military and economic power. And in doing that, it needs to be able to control or thinks it needs to be able to control an ever vaster panoply of elements in human life. And to do that, it needs to simplify, to roll out, as we say, a bureaucratic system and so forth.
    So as a civilization becomes too large & overreaches itself, it moves more & more towards a kind of left hemisphere thinking that helps it with the map, the theory, the diagram of life rather than the actual business of life.
    And I think the other thing that happens, well, there are many things that happen... about half a dozen that I refer to in the preface to ‘The Master and His Emissary,’ and take much further in ‘The Matter with Things.’ But one is something that the great philosopher A.N. Whitehead said that ‘A civilization thrives until it overanalyzed itself.’ And I think what's happening in our world is we don't really live connected so much to nature. We don't live connected to a spiritual tradition. We don't live connected to our history & culture. Our art has become too intellectualized. It's become too conceptual, not powerful, visceral and metaphoric in its nature as most great art is. And so we've been cut loose and we're all kind of at a loss and when we try to talk to one another across these spaces, we tend to talk in very theoretical terms, so people talk about a theory of politics, a theory of economics, and a theory of how people behave and so on.
    Usually this is inaccurate, over simple. And so it's that that gets us into this frame of mind because the left hemisphere's message is money for old root. It's incredibly simple: that 'we are just apes competing for territory, money & power.' That's the left hemisphere's knowledge because, let me put it this way, the left hemisphere's raison d'ĂȘtre is to
make us powerful, to help us grab things. It controls the right hand, which for most of us is the one which we do the grabbing and the manipulating, and it helps us maintain power. But all the rest of the understanding of everything else that humans are capable of, the life, the spirit, the life of morality, of beauty, of goodness, of truth, all these things are somehow left out of this picture and become somehow marginalized or trivialized as they have done, I believe in our culture at the moment.
    And so why I wrote ‘The Matter with Things’ was because I could see that we all agree there is something that is the matter with things. Very few people think everything's going fine right now, but it's also a notice of the facts that we overvalue matter in the most simple sense. I actually say that materialists are not people who overvalue matter. They're people who undervalue matter because matter is a very extraordinary thing. Matter is wonderful, but this kind of simple idea of matter is what we tend to overestimate the power of, the consciousness & the spirit, the mind is somehow a secondary secretion of matter which it cannot be, and that we've made a world up out of things, which is how the left hemisphere puts things together. Whereas I believe the importance in everything lies in relationship, not in what we call the things themselves that are related.”

     “I’m not sure that religion only comes from the right hemisphere, but I do think you’re right that the most important parts of religious experience & practice, the consensus is, seem to be underwritten by the right hemisphere. The left hemisphere is sort of necessary for systematizing it and turning it into a durable phenomenon such as Christianity, Islam or whatever it may be. But in doing so, it often over-legalizes, makes over-certain, over-fixed what should be less certain, more fluid, more awe-inspiring, in fact.

I think we’ve lost the capacity for three very important things: a sense of awe or wonder; a sense of our own humility, or the humility we should have; and compassion. And I think these are the things that most religions that are real religions, or true spiritual traditions have in common - that they induce & rekindle in us a sense of wonder. They make us feel appropriately humble about what we can do and what we can know, and they increase our sense of oneness with and compassion towards the rest of the created world.
    Now
I think that is what’s going wrong. I think we’ve completely failed to understand that religion is not about a matter of propositional belief, but dispositional belief. Belief is a matter of a disposition of your consciousness towards the world in a certain way. It’s not about propositions or six impossible things that you have to believe before breakfast. That’s not what religion’s about.

And what I want to do in my work is take people from a standpoint where they will almost certainly be part of the culture that believes that only somebody rather simple or uneducated would think that there was a divine realm, to a position where they will see that only somebody who’s rather simple or uneducated would just want to rule that out. I’m not saying would become suddenly religious, but I think it’s extremely clear that people who either are fundamentalist religious or fundamentalist atheists are on the wrong track, and that they have more in common with one another, than they have with true believing people. In any case, I just think that business of the ever-evolving, deeper relationship, a loving relationship with the world in all its manifestations, is the secret of human wellbeing & happiness.

And you say that there is now a different religion, that of economic growth and so on. … I’m sure you’re broadly right, and it reminds me of something that GK Chesterton said, that ‘When people stop believing in God, they don’t believe in nothing. They believe in anything.’ And that ‘anything’ for them is their own power, to become more & more rich, powerful, wealthy. And that leaves out of the count just about everything that sustains human happiness. And in the seeking for it, they will never find happiness. As a psychiatrist, I can tell you that the most successful people, the richest people, the most powerful people are not the world’s happiest people."

Interviewer
, Nate Hagens:     “As a former high-net-worth stockbroker on Wall Street, I totally concur with that assessment.
    Iain McGilchrist interview: "Wisdom, Nature and the Brain" - The Great Simplification #85 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dogVQDydRGQ

    Reality may well be - OK, is almost certainly - infinitely more wonderful & complex than the bleak, simplistic black & white model to which our left hemispheres have reduced it to.
    “This is the kind of trick our minds sometimes play with history – the sort of extravagant romantic fantasy it can be such a temptation to fall for, of projecting our own imaginings and needs onto the realities of the world.”
    Peter Kingsley. “A Story Waiting to Pierce You. Mongolia, Tibet and the Destiny of the Western World.” The Golden Sufi Center, 2010.

 

“The rush & pressure of modern life are a form of violence. To allow oneself to be carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns, to surrender to too many demands, to commit oneself to too many projects, to want to help everyone in everything, is to succumb to violence. The frenzy neutralizes our work for peace. It destroys our own inner capacity for peace because it kills the root of inner wisdom which makes work fruitful.” Thomas Merton

 

My salvation is to hear & respond. For this, my life must be silent. Hence, my silence is my salvation.” Thomas Merton

 

"Try to be mindful, & let things take their natural course. Then your mind will become still in any surroundings, like a clear forest pool. All kinds of wonderful, rare animals will come to drink at the pool, and you will clearly see the nature of all things. You will see many strange & wonderful things come & go, but you will be still. This is the happiness of the Buddha." Ajahn Chah 

 



Sunday, May 10, 2015

When All Else Fails, Bear Hug Therapy


     "One afternoon, among the small group of people waiting outside the home where the Dalai Lama was staying, a visibly disturbed man shouted out to him. His Holiness walked toward him and patiently listened to the man rant about the pointlessness of living. The Dalai Lama then urged the man to think about the good things in his life, and the importance of his presence in the lives of his loved ones, as well as the good things he could do with his life by helping others. Nothing worked. So, finally, His Holiness stopped talking and gave the man a huge bear hug. The man sobbed loudly, then became calm and relaxed."

       From A Fearless Heart: How the Courage to Be Compassionate Can Transform Our Lives, by Thupten Jinpa. Reprinted with permission of Hudson Street Press in Tricycle, Summer, 2015. www.tricycle.com

one of Monet's poppies

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Art is About Us - Meant to be Taken Personally

     "None of the great works of art are about someone else. They're about us. Art is the most personal thing in the world, and we're being asked to take it personally, to receive it personally, to think about it personally. It's challenging us at the most personal levels.

     (Art is TIMELESS. Our sense of separation from previous generations is a relatively new phenomenon.)

     Previous eras have not imagined that they were separate from the flow of history. We, with our invention of photography, video & sound recording can separate this moment from that moment, and lift this moment out as a separate unit. But we're the first generation to do anything like that, or to think of time as anything but the river that we're all in, and sharing with every period in human history."
 
     Peter Sellars, American theatre director, interviewed by Eleanor Wachtel on CBC Radio:
     http://www.cbc.ca/player/Radio/Ideas/ID/2442656684/


 
Venice, Italy

Friday, July 4, 2014

Creativity & Communication - in Music ... in Life

     "What do you mean, 'playing really creatively'? Can you give me a concrete example?"

     "Hmm, let's see ... You send the music deep enough into your heart so that it makes your body undergo a kind of a physical shift, and simultaneously the listner's body also undergoes the same kind of physical shift. It's giving birth to that kind of shared state. Probably."

       Haruki Murakami. "After Dark." Bond Street Books, Doubleday, Canada. 2004. p88

Franco Balducci's 2007 "Traveller of Peace" (close-up), San Gimignano, Tuscany, Italy

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Work a Concentration Meditation; Retirement an Open Awareness Meditation?

     There are interresting parallels between the relatively narrow focus of working life and concentration forms of meditation; and then a broader opening up to life in general when one retires (or is on a retreat) and open awareness forms of meditation.
     If one can sense the totality of life as one living organism, and resonates with Valera's understanding http://www.johnlovas.com/2014/06/appropriate-behavior-health-depend-on.html that communication between all parts of this one massive Self is essential, then we can appreciate the relative tunnel vision of work-life to be potentially problematic. Also, after a lifetime of specialized work, when (if) people retire, they may well find it challenging to open their mind-hearts to the big picture.
     The capacity, indeed the seamless, effortless ease of connecting deeply & being congruent with LIFE is always, throughout life, critical, IF we are to perform our small, individual, specialized roles in harmony with the one orchestra.


Venice, Italy, June 2014

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Communication - Now We're Talkin'


     “Apart from the normal communication between men through language and action there is another quite different sort of mutual influence. It is that of the rhythm of the Original strength which permeates all human beings and all Nature. Through it every individual thing in essence and, as it were, underground is connected with every other. If then one who is further removed from the working of the Primordial Force is close to one who lives more in accord with it, the rhythm of the Primordial Force will certainly be transmitted from the one to the other. The latter without knowing it exerts a good influence on the other.”

       Sayama MK. “Samadhi. Self-development in Zen, swordsmanship, and psychotherapy.” State University of New York Press, 1986. 

     “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”                                Maya Angelou


Wall Magic in Toronto, Dundas Street

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Communication


     “through our activity we communicate with each other, intentionally and unintentionally. We should always be alert enough to communicate with or without words. If this point is lost, we will lose the most important point of Buddhism.”

       Suzuki S. "Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind." Weatherhill, New York, 1970. 

 
December's Children

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Stillness

     “Stillness is the condition of unselfcentered attention. It is inherently compassionate and agile. Whatever is still is also silent, because it communicates directly and not through the medium of any language. 
     This silence is more vast and more empathic than all the scriptures put together.”

                                                                                                                         Fr Laurence Freeman


Friday, September 13, 2013

Insight Dialogue Retreat - Relating Wisely to Daily Life

     This is a uniquely beneficial retreat, ideal for those who've already attended a few silent retreats and now feel the need to more consistently bring into their daily "householder" lives those wiser qualities experienced during retreat. I had the privilege of attending last year and WHOLEHEARTEDLY recommend it.

     “... breaks new ground in applying the Buddha’s teachings to our lives, relationships, and meditative understandings [...and is] of tremendous benefit to all those seeking freedom in their daily lives.”   Joseph Goldstein

4th Annual Cascadia Insight Dialogue Retreat 
with Gregory Kramer and Mary Burns
Samish Island Camp, Bow, WA (near Bellingham)

May 3 - May 11, 2014

A BUDDHIST PRACTICE FOR CULTIVATING WISDOM AND COMPASSION THROUGH MEDITATION IN DIALOGUE
Humans are relational beings.  We are pack animals, born of mother and father, raised with families and friends.  We work and live with others.  It is no surprise that much of our suffering is people-suffering.  We meditate to understand and be free from suffering.  Yet sometimes a gap arises when interpersonal suffering is being addressed in intrapersonal meditation.  We perpetuate the “island universe” of the individual self even as we seek freedom.

Insight Dialogue is a fully relational meditation practice based on Buddhist Vipassana Insight Meditation and a relational understanding of the Dhamma.  The mind is invited to stillness and keen mindfulness even as we remain in dialogue with others.  Here, we meet the shared human experience that transcends our very real differences in genetics, background, and worldly circumstances.

For each of us, the body is home. We have an unfathomably remarkable brain.   As humans, we are sensitive to light and sound and vibrate deeply with every interpersonal contact.  Recognizing our common foundations, the shared legacy of suffering is understood anew.  Through practice, loving-kindness becomes a lived experience that encompasses each and every specific person we encounter here and now -- whether he or she is a loved one or an enemy.

In this retreat, we will maintain noble silence as a support for traditional meditation and Insight Dialogue.  There will be time in nature to support ease and solitude.  Holding “retreat” as one element in the mosaic of awakening, we will live the following question throughout our time together: “How can this practice support insight right now and how can the Dhamma be carried forward into my entire life?”

Retreat cost:
U.S. or Canadian $500, After April 1:  $530
The registration fee includes accommodations for 8 nights and 24 meals.
Partial scholarships available on first come first-served basis. We invite participants to offer dana (freewill donation) at the end of the retreat to support the teacher and the teachings


For more information:
www.cascadiainsightdialogue.com
cascadiaretreat@gmail.com
Register online:
http://goo.gl/2JEJz
More about Insight Dialogue: www.metta.org

Gregory Kramer
has been teaching Vipassana and Loving-kindness meditation since 1980.  He is the director of Metta Programs and a visiting faculty member at the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies.  Gregory is the co-creator and developer of Insight Dialogue.
Mary Burns, senior teacher of Insight Dialogue, leads retreats worldwide and offers teachings online through Metta Programs.  A long time student of meditation and yoga, Mary is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker; she teaches Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction and has studied and practiced for 3 decades at the intersection of western and eastern healing traditions.

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Self-talk, once Adaptive, has become a Liability

     "we developed this ego a couple of hundred thousand years ago probably. And why did we develop the ego? It was probably useful when life was a lot simpler: we were living in a cave or something, and we had very simple communication. Out of that communication came language. Out of language came this self-talking ability we have. It was probably useful when you and I were deciding who is going to plant the seeds and who is going to plow the soil or who is going to go out and kill the gazelle and who is going to take care of cooking it. Very useful. But today, in today’s world things have really changed. ... 500 years ago we had 5,000 thoughts a day, now we have 55,000 thoughts a day [Peter Baldwin told me]. It really has turned into an evolutionary disadvantage. I mean most of our stress, our unhappiness, our anger, our fixation are driven by this self-referential narrative. It is no longer useful and we're no longer capable of handling it, with the very limited capacity we have of handling seven plus or minus two things at a time in short term memory. We're no longer capable of dealing with this incredibly complicated world (using self-talk)."      Gary Weber
BG 260: Enlightenment is Capable of Endless Enlargement 

Photo: Don Hanna   www.dpreview.com

Friday, June 8, 2012

What is Love?


         “I would define love very simply: as a potent blend of openness and warmth, which allows us to make real contact, to take delight in and appreciate, and to be at one with – ourselves, others, and life itself. Openness – the heart’s pure, unconditional yes – is love’s essence. And warmth is love’s basic expression, arising as a natural extension of this yes – the desire to reach out and touch, connect with, and nourish what we love. If love’s openness is like the clear, cloudless sky, its warmth is like the sunlight streaming through the sky, emitting a rainbowlike spectrum of colors: passion, joy, contact, communication, kindness, caring, understanding, service, dedication, and devotion, to name just a few.
         According to the saints and mystics, love is the very fabric of what we are; we are fashioned out of its warmth and openness. We don’t have to be great sages to recognize this. All we need to do is take an honest look at what makes our life worthwhile. When the presence of love is alive and moving in us, there is no doubt that our life is on target and meaningful, regardless of our outer circumstances. We feel that we’re in touch, connected with something larger than our small self. This lifts the burden of isolation and alienation off our shoulders, filling us with peace and well-being. But when the presence of love is absent, something often feels sad, not quite right; something seems to be missing, and it’s hard to find much joy, even in the midst of favorable circumstances. We easily fall prey to meaninglessness, anxiety, or despair.
         These simple truths are also upheld by neuroscience research, which confirms that our connections with others affect the healthy development and functioning of the brain, the endocrine and immune systems, and our emotional balance. In short, love is the central force that holds our whole life together and allows it to function. …"

             John Welwood. "Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships. Healing the Wound of the Heart." Trumpeter, 2006.

Photo: Dana Reed   dpreview.com