Showing posts with label gratitude. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gratitude. Show all posts

Saturday, June 20, 2026

You HAVE to Try THIS!

     Okay, you don't 'have to,' BUT I sincerely recommend you do, because this is a surprisingly simple but not easy "game changer."

    1) Become aware of your Mood or overall Attitude
    Unless
 you feel: Open & Curious to ANYTHING that might happen, Ready to Learn & Evolve, and Grateful to be Alive, then DROP YOUR BORING, DEADENING, SELF-DEFEATING MOOD. You've done shit mood & "ordinary unhappiness" (or worse) to death. It's time to LIVE!

     2) FRESH START EVERY MORNING!
    Anything, ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING
 can happen today! None of us have a clue how our day will go when we first open our eyes. YET, a pessimistic or anxious, or one of our other pet shit moods loves to rush in to pathologically distort our attitude for the whole day. This is our fear-based choice akin to people choosing to return to a familiar abusive home rather than 'risk' a new safe house. BE BRAVE! Admit you don't have a clue about the future, NOR can you micromanage the future. The best you can be is PRESENT: Not Knowing, Relaxed yet Alert & Energized, Ready to Learn & Evolve, and Grateful to be Alive

    3) PRESENCE
    This is relatively rare, YET simple, ordinary, AND feels joyful. Have you ever been somewhere with so many overwhelming noises that you can't think clearly? For most, the source of the overwhelming noises is our own "self-talk" - the ongoing dialogue from our small self. We, as individuals, "need" a "noisy ego" like we as a society, "need" a narcissistic dictator taking a wrecking ball to our world ie like we need a hole in the head. 95% of our self-talk is useless or harmful. We CAN ignore self-talk, and CAN direct our awareness ANYWHERE we choose
    
CHOOSE Open Awareness! Open Awareness is a meditation practice that's also the ideal way to be 24/7. When we're not narrowly focused on a specific task such as cooking a meal, or driving, our awareness is wide open to & monitoring all of our sensory inputs, in the present moment. Unless we specifically choose to narrow our awareness down, we remain open, present. This is peacefuljoyful because it's so effortless & freeing - free from our infernal neurotic, fearful, anxious self-talk. TREAT yourself to this experience - even for a minute - to appreciate the miraculous peace. This peaceful 'liminal space' feels energized at the same time, a bit like a helicopter that has risen off the ground hovering, yet able to take off in any direction when it chooses to do so.

    This 'everyday miracle' is YOURS to enjoy, yours to LIVE. It's your birthright! You WILL kick yourself if you delay letting go of needlessly living in 'ordinary unhappiness' or worse.

    

small self vs Self

St. Michael Defeating Satan (c. 1633) by Guido Reni


     

Monday, October 11, 2021

Scarcity in our Time of Abundance

     Someone who earned well over $250k a year, once told me that he envied panhandlers for doing nothing and earning more than he did. He must have been thoroughly intoxicated by the paradigm of scarcity to say something so ridiculous.

     “Buckminster ('Bucky') Fuller in 1976, told an audience of 2,000 people: ‘Now I’m going to say the most important thing I’ve ever said or ever will say. Humanity has just crossed a threshold. And that threshold changes everything. And we’ve crossed it. And it’s recent.’ He meant in the last 50 or a 100 years – he dealt in these large swaths of time. ‘And that threshold is that humanity is doing so much more, with so much less. And that is the direction of our science, our innovation, of all of our technology – to do so much more, with so much less, that we now clearly live in a world where there is enough for everyone, everywhere to have a healthy & productive life. We live in a world of absolute, profound sufficiency and everyone, everywhere can have a healthy & productive life
.
     And
that was not always true. Before this threshold, we lived in a world of scarcity, where it was either you make it at my expense, because I make it at your expense, because there was not enough for both of us. But on this side of the line, you and I can both make it at no one’s expense, because there’s enough for everyone, everywhere to have a healthy, productive life. We don’t have to compete like mad any longer. We have everything we need. And he said, we won’t realize that for around 50 years, because human institutions inside of which we live, are all rooted in the you or me paradigm, rather than the you and me paradigm – a paradigm of scarcity, rather than a paradigm of enough. And so he said that governance is rooted in a you or me understanding of the world; the economy is clearly designed & rooted in a you or me understanding of the world; education is rooted in a you or me understanding of the world; even, he said, religion is rooted in a you or me understanding of the world. So he said these institutions will need to become so dysfunctional, that they start falling apart and they won’t be able to fix them. And then we’ll have to recreate our human institutions from a new paradigm – a paradigm of profound sufficiency. And it will take about 50 years for all of this to fall apart. He said this in 1976 and here we are in 2021, and things are totally falling apart, and we can’t really fix them because they’re rooted in a set of assumptions that are now so clearly inaccurate. That’s the big lesson I learned from Bucky, and then I began to be a spokesperson for the distinction of sufficiency, which is not an amount of anything, it’s an experience, it’s a way of being where you are in the experience that you are enough, there is enough, and from enough, we build and grow and expand (rather than from scarcity or lack, but from enough). It’s just a completely different way of living. … Bucky said, ‘We can make the world work for everyone, with no one and nothing left out.’

     Brother David Steindl-Rast (gratefulness.org) when asked ‘What’s the difference between gratitude and gratefulness?’ replied, ‘Gratitude has two great branches, one is gratefulness, and the other is thanksgiving. Gratefulness is the experience of life when the whole of life is so full, it is almost overflowing, but not quite. The bowl of life is so full, that it’s bowed at the top but not yet dribbling over the edges. And that’s the experience of the great fullness of life. And when you’re in the great fullness of life, if you’re one with God, one with the Universe, and there is no other. It’s all One. That is so fulfilling that the bowl of life starts to overflow, and that puts you over on the other branch of gratitude, called thanksgiving. And when you’re in the branch of gratitude called thanksgiving, the bowl of life is like a fountain, it’s overflowing. And so all you want to do is give, and serve, and you’re so grateful to discover there’s another so you can give and serve and contribute and share and that’s so fulfilling, it puts you in the gratefulness of life again. … back & forth … And you can live in these two branches of gratitude, and it’s so powerful & fulfilling to live in these two branches, like Brother David does. All of us can
.
     But
sometimes, when the bowl of life gets full, almost overflowing, we think, ‘Oh, I’ve got to get a bigger bowl!’ rather than realize this is enough.
     And
out of enough, natural bounty, or natural abundance flows. Abundance is different from sufficiency. This is sufficiency, and this is natural abundance, which flows from sufficiency, never from lack, and not even from more. Real sufficiency flows from the profound recognition of enough. There’s a beautiful principle of sufficiency I kind of made up: When you let go of trying to get more of what you don’t really need, it frees up oceans of energy you’ve tied up in the chase, to turn and pay attention to what you already have. When you pay attention to what you already have, when you nourish what you already have, when you make a difference with what you already have, when you share what you already have, it expands. This is another way of saying, ‘What you appreciate, appreciates.
     What
you long for in the world, and what you love, where you feel hurt in the world, and what you care deeply about, where you feel the world is longing for your participation and where you’re drawn from your heart to do something about – you put those two things together, and you’ll find your path of service. Albert Schweitzer said, ‘One thing I know; the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought & found how to serve.’ So just get involved in whatever makes your heart sing, touches your heart, and keep engaging in things until you find this is it, this is mine, this is why I was born, this is why I’m here, this is what I stand for, this is my dharma, this is my karma, this is my service, this is who I am."
     Lynne
Twist (1hr 35min) interview: https://batgap.com/lynne-twist/

 


 

Monday, December 2, 2019

Maturity, Growing Up, Becoming Conscious, Awakening ...

     “Maturity is the ability to live fully and equally in multiple contexts.”
          David Whyte, poet and philosopher

      “True adulthood… is a difficult beauty, an intensely hard-won glory, which commercial forces and cultural vapidity should not be permitted to deprive you of.” Toni Morrison
 

     “One form of discomfort or pain arises when our lives are out of alignment with our goals, such as when what we do doesn’t fit our values, or when we have changed but our lives have not. If you notice a sense of disconnection and discomfort in your work, your job or your career, pay attention to it!”  
       Mark Lesser, “Seven Practices of a Mindful Leader.” New World Library, 2019. 

     “Women need to define success differently than men. If you don’t learn to unplug and recharge, you’re not going to be as good a leader. Look at the price we’re paying. Look at the increase in heart disease and diabetes for career women. If success continues to be defined as driving yourself into the ground and burning out, it will be disastrous for our families, our companies, and our world. We have so many people making terrible decisions, despite the fact that they have high IQs and great degrees. If success doesn’t include your own health and happiness, then what is it?” Arianna Huffington

     “Action has meaning only in relationship, and without understanding relationship, action on any level will only breed conflict.” Krishnamurti


     “The problem with the world is 
       that we draw our family circle too small.” Mother Teresa

     “Rapture is not a selfish emotion. It is pure gratitude, flowing freely through the body, heart, and soul. Gratitude for what? For breath, for colors, for music, for friendship, humor, weather, sleep, awareness. It is a willing engagement with the whole messy miracle of life.”
        Elizabeth Lesser, “Broken Open”

     “I would say that the thrust of my life has been initially about getting free, and then realizing that my freedom is not independent of everybody else. Then I am arriving at that circle where one works on oneself as a gift to other people so that one doesn't create more suffering. I help people as a work on myself and I work on myself to help people.” Ram Das

I HIGHLY recommend this wonderful, powerful 2019 movie!
 


Monday, November 27, 2017

The Art of Savoring


     “The root of the word savor comes from the Latin word saporem which means to taste and is also the root of sapient which is the word for wisdom. Another definition I love is ‘to give oneself over to the enjoyment of something.’ When I give myself over to the experience of savoring, wisdom emerges. Savoring calls for a kind of surrender. We have all kinds of stories in our minds about why we perhaps shouldn’t give ourselves over to enjoyment, whether out of guilt or shame or a sense of fear out of what might happen. Yet we are called to yield to the goodness of life, to bask in it. It is an affirmation and celebration …

      Savoring calls me to slowness: I can't savor quickly.

      Savoring calls me to spaciousness: I can't savor everything at once.

      Savoring calls me to mindfulness: I can't savor without being fully present.

      It also calls for a fierce and wise discernment about how I spend my time and energy. Now that I know deep in my bones the limits of my life breaths, how do I choose to spend those dazzling hours? What are the experiences ripening within me that long for exploration? Do I want to waste my time skating on the surface of things, in a breathless rush to get everything done when all I need is here in this moment?

      There is also a seasonal quality to savoring – this season, what is right before me, right now, is to be savored. It will rise and fall, come into fullness and then slip away. When I savor I pay attention to all the moments of that experience without trying to change it.

      And finally, there is a tremendous sweetness to this open-hearted way of being in the world. Everything becomes grace because I recognize it could all be different, it could all be gone. Rather than grasp at how I think this moment should be, I savor the way things are.”

      excerpted & adapted by the author, from: 

     Christine Valters Painter. “The Wisdom of the Body: A Contemplative Journey to Wholeness for Women.” Sorin Books, 2017.




Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Unfolding Mystery

     "Between the conscious and the unconscious, the mind has put up a swing: all earth creatures, even the supernovas, sway between these two trees, and it never winds down.
     Angels, animals, humans, insects by the million, also the wheeling sun and moon; ages go by, and it goes on and on....
     Everything is swinging: heaven, earth, water, fire,
and the secret one is slowly growing a body.

     Kabir saw that for fifteen seconds, and it made him a servant for life."          Kabir

     Pause for a moment to remember the precious moments in your life when you caught a glimpse of the deeper nature of your True Nature and reflect upon how those moments have inspired, guided, and shaped your life and identity...

     Give thanks        www.wisdomatwork.com

 

Monday, November 21, 2016

Personal Guidelines

Come from Gratitude
To be alive in this beautiful, self-organizing universe -- to participate in the dance of life with senses to perceive it, lungs that breathe it, organs that draw nourishment from it -- is a wonder beyond words. Gratitude for the gift of life is the primary wellspring of all religions, the hallmark of the mystic, the source of all true art. Furthermore, it is a privilege to be alive in this time when we can choose to take part in the self-healing of our world.

Don't be Afraid of the Dark
This is a dark time, filled with suffering and uncertainty. Like living cells in a larger body, it is natural that we feel the trauma of our world. So don't be afraid of the anguish you feel, or the anger or fear, for these responses arise from the depth of your caring and the truth of your interconnectedness with all beings. To suffer with is the literal meaning of compassion.

Dare to Vision
Out of this darkness a new world can arise, not to be constructed by our minds so much as to emerge from our dreams. Even though we cannot see clearly how it's going to turn out, we are still called to let the future into our imagination. We will never be able to build what we have not first cherished in our hearts..

Roll up your Sleeves
Many people don't get involved in the Great Turning because there are so many different issues, which seem to compete with each other. Shall I save the whales or help battered children? The truth is that all aspects of the current crisis reflect the same mistake, setting ourselves apart and using others for our gain. So to heal one aspect helps the others to heal as well. Just find what you love to work on and take joy in that. Never try to do it alone. Link up with others; you'll spark each others' ideas and sustain each others' energy..

Act your Age
Since every particle in your body goes back to the first flaring forth of space and time, you're really as old as the universe. So when you are lobbying at your congressperson's office, or visiting your local utility, or testifying at a hearing on nuclear waste, or standing up to protect an old grove of redwoods, you are doing that not out of some personal whim, but in the full authority of your 15 billions years.



Joanna Macy 



 

Sunday, May 31, 2015

Do You Feel Right?

     Perhaps we have two basic modes of being in this world. In one, our natural state, we are unconditional love. In the other, self-concern dominates. 

     Certain people, animals, places, events easily open our hearts, so that we, as individuals, essentially disappear, transforming into loving energy, freely, selflessly flowing into, nurturing our loved one. This is where empathy, respect, forgiveness, gratitude and joy also happen.
     Other people, animals, places, events easily trigger self-concern. When "me, myself & I" dominates, our hearts are closed unless there's something in it for me. Then a bit of "conditional love" sneaks out - but it's essentially a business transaction. Fear rules here: "taking care of #1", "greed is good", "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth", cynicism, restlessness, revenge, depression, anxiety, loneliness, paranoia.

     It can take a lifetime to realize that "taking care of #1" can't ever truly satisfy. As we mature, we gradually realize that we only feel right when we are being egoless unconditional love. Our true nature is unconditional, transcending words & concepts.


 

Saturday, May 17, 2014

When we Fail to Accept Afflictive Emotions

     "We numb (our) vulnerability. We are the most in-debt, obese, addicted & medicated adult cohort in US history. The problem is - and I learned it from my research - is that you cannot selectively numb emotion.
     You can't say "Here's the bad stuff. Here's vulnerability, here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment - I don't want to feel these. I'm going to have a couple of beers & a banana-nut muffin. I don't want to feel these." You can't numb those hard feelings without (simultaneously) numbing the other affects or emotions - you cannot selectively numb. 
     So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness, and then we are miserable, and we're looking for purpose & meaning. And then we feel vulnerable, and then we have a couple of beers & a banana-nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle. 
     One of the things we have to think about is why & how we numb."
       Brene Brown PhD, from her (20min) TEDtalk below


Sunday, February 23, 2014

Direct Intimacy with Daily Life

     "Suddenly I was experiencing the vitality and immediacy of life itself - in the flowers, the people, the clamor of traffic - without the walls of resistance that human beings are heir to.
     What is this resistance? Why do we again and again resist our feelings of joy or happiness or love? We don't do it intentionally, but our conditioning, our habits of mind, and our culture all seem to work to build up the walls between what we naturally feel and what we allow ourselves to feel. Ironically, it is often the times when we are forced to feel intensely - times of grief, or physical pain - that catapult us into feeling joy. That is why we often hear people say they are grateful for the losses or difficulties they have encountered. They are grateful because the shock forced them into an intimacy with life that had been hidden from them. Intimacy seems hidden, but it is actually available to us all the time: in the world we inhabit with people, in the natural world, in our work, and in all our relationships. Once we are willing to be directly intimate with our life as it arises, joy emerges our of the simplest of life experiences."

       Roshi Pat Enkyo O'Hara "Simple Joy. Becoming Intimate with all of Life's Circumstances." Tricycle, Spring 2014 


William McIntosh   http://www.flickr.com/photos/mtsacprof/

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Self-awareness, Humility & Gratitude

     It's shocking when we start being a bit more self-aware, and thus have some insight into how others likely perceived us in the past. Shunryu Suzuki said that the life of Zen is a series of embarrassments. We become filled with wonder & immense gratitude that so many people could have been so understanding & tolerant of such miserable behavior on our part. Humility looms - only briefly at first.
     Afterwards, when we are subjected to hurtful behaviour, we're less likely to strike back or even criticize. It's now OUR turn to be understanding & tolerant - and there's MUCH to tolerate!
     It's a real tongue-biter when someone with fairly constant bad behaviour is openly critical of our now relatively benign behaviour. Blind spots are invisible to the individual who has them. We see others' faults way more clearly than our own. Super-critical people have minimal self-awareness. Gradually we see ourselves more & more clearly, accept our own imperfection, AND others' imperfection ... and we criticize less & less.


Steve McCurry   http://stevemccurry.com/

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Timeless Openhearted Engagement with What Is


     “What is the Zen life itself? We can put it in a formula: 

Infinite gratitude towards all things past;
infinite service to all things present
infinite responsibility to all things future.”                  Huston Smith

http://billmoyers.com/content/a-personal-philosophy-the-wisdom-of-faith-with-huston-smith/


Steve McCurry   http://stevemccurry.com/

Thursday, November 28, 2013

With Gratitude


timeless gatekeepers – one-or-two?
welcome us in
to their energy field
of red & gold
where
past-present-future
far away places
and places to dream of
are all at home


Steve McCurry   http://stevemccurry.com/

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Savour this Land

     No words can describe the experience of walking in Canadian woods during our Thanksgiving weekend - usually around the peak of the changing colors of our trees.

     This land is sacred, embracing and to be embraced. We are blessed. We are grateful.

Rural Nova Scotia, Canada, October 13, 2013